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The Real Issues Need to Be Managed….Not Resolved. Ready for this? Marriage researcher John Gottman of the University of Washington says that 64 percent of the fights married couples have are the SAME fights they are having five years later.

This is either really depressing, or really liberating. In other words, most of the things we fight about aren’t actually resolvable. It’s a process of managing differences in preferences, habits and personalities – differences that aren’t going to go away, so we might as well quit getting worked up about “how they are” and instead focus on working out ways to get around those issues.

Sheila Heen